The curse of wanting small

The inferiority we feel to be satisfied oved sucessful

For Validation, being a primal need, it takes a backseat when the Human has suffered abuse or trauma or he’s just tired of the tyranny and the societal prison. For an animal to abandon it’s pack is the same as signing death on it’s name. It’s not supposed to happen, Culturally, Biologically or psychologically. Here i want to share an excerpt from Reverend Insanity.

As you can see, though its fiction, its not so different from reality. Family, society has been an excuse to manipulate the young ones or the ones craven to leave in order to prolong survival. The society isnt based on communal happiness anymore, they’re based on the Pride of Peacock, every one in the society is inspired by the vanity to impress on another or to spark jealousy, being a sycophant, kissing to the people who are the most influential. Its about power, pride and vanity. In this system, the one who suffer the most are the one who are craven, the ones who have wanderlust in their blood and the ones who want to escape from this sorry excuse of a society. Here the society thinks in one mind, to manipulate and guilt the craven to abandon it’s pursuit and to prolong it’s survival.

For validation being such a primal need, why do the craven feel alienated or disgusted at the sight of the pride? For they’ve developed emotional maturity or were forced to it at a young age, and that is the peak of emotional maturity they may reach in the entirety of their life. The point is for alienation and the constant desire to escape, which has to be the innate desire to escape the cage and see the world for itself, like the frog in the well. The society will often downgrade such pursuits for its not productive for either it’s survival or prosperity. And then comes marriage, a societal bond invented to bind the craven to a place and to people. IM not married, thank god, so i cant even explain on it. But my point stands, Society has created all of the bindings to bind the craven to it, for they fear either extinction or fear that the craven would realise that the gritty road of the world is better than the polished marble of society.

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Humans, like other social animals, operate on communal validation because survival depended on it. Humans couldn’t survive alone, and they can’t survive alone now, too. Validation has been, and is a vital part of human behaviour and psychology- and might even qualify as a “need” of humans.

Thus, validation-seeking is a primal response to societal interactions, and that’s why, people wished to be liked. They want to be validated by others and be admired, treasured and loved. Those feelings fill the void, the void humans carry within themselves, born out of our endless search for meaning and purpose.

People wish to leave a mark. They wish to remembered and noticed, even after they die. They want to leave their impressions. They want to be saviours, to have a deep impact on lives. They want to be inspirations, role models. They wish to be a character society adores. This is not bad, not wrong, not weird. If anything, it’s human.

However, there are people who don’t want all that. They don’t want a crowd of people fulfilling their emotional needs and seeing them as a hero. They don’t want to be useful to other humans, they’re not philanthropists. They want to live their life, as just theirs. Only them, and making choices for themselves. No compromises for people who don’t matter to them. Being selfish. They wish to think about themselves before the society.

There is nothing wrong with these people and it’s not that they’re anti-social, not necessarily. Everyone has needs and ambitions, and they have different needs and ambitions. These people tread lightly, they care deeply but in a reserved way.

They suffer from a curse, the curse of wanting small things. The curse of wanting a life for just themselves, the curse of being forgotten early, the curse of wishing for a fulfilling life regardless.

But the society cannot stomach someone like that, someone who thinks about their happiness above others’. Someone who wish to be a character in just their life.

No, that is a cursed person to society- they’re wrong in the head for not wanting the big things, for not wanting all that fame and what it brings. For not wanting the satisfaction validation brings. They’re mad for wanting solitude and their peace of mind.

But then again, not everyone in this society can be sane, huh?